Resources - Marla Stanley


Here are some books, websites, and other resources that you may find useful as you journey towards healing. Affiliate links may be used.

Accountability & Support

Worthy of Her Trust: What You Need to Do to Rebuild Sexual Integrity and Win Her Back, Stephen Arterburn & Jason B. Martinkus – Chapter 11 is excellent regarding creating an “Accountability” relationship and support group. 

Safe People: How to Find Relationships That Are Good for You and Avoid Those That Aren’t, Dr. Henry Cloud, Dr. John Townsend,


When I Am Afraid: A Step-by-Step Guide Away from Fear and Anxiety, Edward T. Welch

Worry: Pursuing a Better Path to Peace, David Powlison (booklet)

Running Scared: Fear, Worry, and the God of Rest, Edward T. Welch


Emotional Dependency Booklet, Lori Rentzel (Amazon) or Desert Stream ($2 + tax/shipping)

Boundaries, Updated & Expanded Edition Cloud & Townsend

When People Are Big And God is Small: Overcoming Peer Pressure, Codependency, and the Fear of Man, Edward T. Welch


Depression: The Way Up When You Are Down, Edward T. Welch (booklet)


Debunking the Myths of Forgive and Forget, Kay Bruner

Healing & Recovery

Crossroads (Study Guide): A Step-by-Step Guide Away from Addiction, Edward Welch

Emotionally Healthy Spirituality, Peter Scazerro

Emotionally Healthy Relationships Day by Day, Peter Scazerro

Sexual Purity

Not sure if you are fostering an addiction to porn? Take a confidential quiz on to find out.


For children:

God Made All of Me, Justin Holcomb – a wonderful book to help teach children about protecting their bodies from abuse

The Story of Me (God’s Design for Sex), Jones, Jones, & Spector – Designed for ages 3-5, and using age-appropriate language and illustrations, this book explains to young children the marvelous body God gave them.

Before I Was Born (God’s Design for Sex), Carolyn Nystrom – Before I Was Born explains in age-appropriate language the basic nature of sexual intercourse between a husband and wife and discusses conception, fetal development, childbirth, and breastfeeding. For children ages 5 to 8.

What’s the Big Deal?: Why God Cares About Sex (God’s Design for Sex), Stan & Brenna Jones – Written for children ages 8-11, What’s the Big Deal? helps kids find answers to their questions about sex. It explains the basic facts about sex, why God made adults so they want to have sex, what God says about sex in the Bible, and how to respond when faced with sexual pressure from peers, TV, movies, and magazines.


For teens:

Porn and Your Boyfriend, Kay Bruner – help for young women (and others) in making healthy decisions in relationships related to internet pornography and purity.

For Young Men Only, Jeff Feldhahn, Eric Rice

For Young Women Only, Shaunti Feldhahn, Lisa Rice


For adults:

Worthy of Her Trust: What You Need to Do to Rebuild Sexual Integrity and Win Her Back, Stephen Arterburn & Jason B. Martinkus – learn how to rebuild trust in your relationships; worth the cost of the book for Chapter 11 alone (Accountability) and Chapter 14 (Restitution). This is a must-read for every believer! Chapter 17 (the “Amends Matrix”) is invaluable to everyone in a relationship, particularly a relationship that has suffered damage.

For Men Only: A Straightforward Guide to the Inner Lives of Women, Shaunti & Jeff Feldhahn

Pure Eyes ( Resource): A Man’s Guide to Sexual Integrity, Craig Gross, Steven Luff

For Women Only: What You Need to Know About the Inner Lives of Men, Shaunti Feldhahn

As Soon As I Fell: A Memoir, Kay Bruner –  

Covenant Eyes– paid service for accountability partners, referral program included

XXX Church & X3Watch– paid service and resources for education, accountability, and support for individuals and families, yearly plans for under $100

The Green Band-helping single and dating honor God in their sexuality

The Red Band-helping engaged and married honor God in their sexuality

Article: Protecting Our Kids From Pornography-Radical Parenting



Christ and Your Problems, Jay Edward Adams (booklet)



The Friends We Keep: A Woman’s Quest for the Soul of Friendship, Sarah Zacharias Davis

The Emotionally Healthy Woman: Eight Things You Have to Quit to Change Your Life, Geri Scazzero

Unglued: Making Wise Choices in the Midst of Raw Emotion, Lysa TerKeurst